As soon as how have gained a clearer picture about ‘Where you are now’ (READ MORE), it’s time to think about where you wish to be in future.
Where do you want to go? What’s your goal/your vision for the next chapter of your life?
It doesn’t matter whether you came to your change situation voluntarily or didn’t have a choice, you can easily get paralysed if you are not sure what to do next:
- It’s hard to figure out how and where to move on if your mind is still occupied by the past. That’s one of the main reasons why managing change can be so demanding and frustrating.
- It can happen that you feel stuck and clueless because you are surrounded by too many options or opportunities, too many choices.
- Or you might feel lost and desperate because you don’t see any alternatives at all, no way out of the chaos.
Focus on your life after the change
A good way to dissolve the dilemma of feeling frozen and stuck is to separate yourself from your current situation and feelings and instead focus on your future goals.
You decide that you no longer push yourself to find quick solutions today. Instead you concentrate on your future life, your life after the change. What do you want to do, how do you wish to feel? How can you describe your goals for the next phase of your life?
Defining your vision of the future in a very open way – a simple powerful statement, just a word or a short phrase – can help you to get unstuck and active. The goal/vision for your new life provides you with a filter which any upcoming decision has to go through.
It becomes easier to make decisions as soon as you know where you want to go.
This knowledge also gives you confidence and motivates you to let go what no longer serves you and to say ‘good bye’ to the things and issues of the past.
How to find ideas for your new goal/vision
Start by describing the theme of your current life phase.
What’s been your main focus of the present chapter of your life? The ‘big-picture’ goal? Your current identity? If your life was a book, what would the title of the current chapter be?
Now continue ‘writing your life book’ – what’s the header for the next chapter?
Try to define a vision that is broad enough to cover all areas of your life (personal, professional, social, …) and keep it simple. Find an inspiring phrase.
Listen to your intuition and not to what others might expect of you.
And ask yourself questions, such as:
- What are you hoping to gain from the change?
- Are there any activities you enjoy doing but neglected for years?
- Which interests do you have that you would love to invest more time and energy in?
- Which dreams have you been unable to pursue so far?
- What do you like about your current life? What do you hate about it?
Don’t rush through the vision-finding process
Sometimes we need time to process the change challenge. That’s especially the case if we experience an unexpected or unwanted change. Only you can know/feel when it’s time to move on.
However, starting to play around with some potential scenarios will ‘loosen the knots’ in your heart and mind. Give it a try.
No matter how confident or sceptical you feel about the new goal/vision you come up with, begin to ‘use’ it whenever you have to make a decision about an aspect of your future life.
You might not have the final detailed and specific goal yet but at least you are able to become active and to take the first steps to move on.
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