OPENING UP OUR MIND
The negative effects of negative questions
- ‘Why do I always mess it up?’,
- ‘How can he be so stupid?’,
- ‘What’s wrong with me?’,
- ‘When is it going to get better?’,
- ‘Why is life so hard?’,
- ‘Does everything has to be so difficult?’,
- ‘Why is she always so mean to me?’,
- ‘Why doesn’t he understand me?’,
- ‘Why am I always angry?’
When we ask ourselves this type of negative questions – and we all do it, every day, or from time to time, often without being aware of it – we hurt ourselves.
Questions like the examples above are not only useless, they are damaging.
As soon as we ask a negative question, our mind gets to work:
It will follow the direction we have given to it and come back with negative and destructive answers. It starts to build up a negative thought pattern which will first create negative feelings and ultimately negative results in our life.
How can we stop this cycle of negativity?
The power of positive questions
We can take control of our mind, we can always choose thoughts that help us feel and act better.
One of the many ways to guide our mind is to ask the right questions.
When we ask ourselves powerful questions, our mind will open up and answer with powerful thoughts. It will shift toward constructing better thought patterns which will make us feel better.
And when we feel better, we are better able to create the results we want to have in our life.
Examples of powerful questions
- ‘What am I grateful for?’,
- ‘Why is today a good day?’,
- ‘What can I do to make today a good day?’,
- ‘What is a/the solution to this problem?’,
- ‘What can I learn from this situation?’,
- ‘How do I want to feel right now?’,
- ‘What’s the good news about this?’,
- ‘What am I making this mean?’,
- ‘What is the one thing I could do now to make it better?’,
- ‘What would be a good reaction?’.
How to find powerful questions
It’s usually not difficult to come up with powerful questions when everything is running smoothly and we feel good and strong already.
When we have a bad day, or find ourselves in a tough situation, it’s often not easy to come up with a question that can help us find powerful answers and create positive thoughts and feelings.
This is why we have to get prepared.
We have to search for and practice powerful questions ahead of time. We want to make sure that we always have a powerful question at hand when we need it urgently.
We can brainstorm a broad range of questions and then test their power-potential by checking how they make us think, feel, and act.
We ‘question’ our questions by asking:
- ‘Does this question open up my mind?
- Does it provoke useful thoughts?
- Does it help me to feel good?
- Does it inspire me to take action?’
Give it a try
Pick one of the powerful questions from the list above and play around with it.
Use it over the course of one day or several days to help you develop more powerful thought patterns.
If you chose, for example, the question:
- ‘What is the one thing I could do now to make it better?’
your mind will most probably come up with answers that make you feel more active, powerful, and in control – which will make it easier for you to take action and create results intentionally.