The Mind-Decluttering Series - Part 12 - How to take action

How to take action – The Mind-Decluttering Series – Part 12

How to take action and make changes in our life

Many of us share this experience:

We have an idea we want to realise, we plan to change a certain behaviour, we want to create a new habit – and we really want to get active.

But then we don’t manage to motivate ourselves to do that thing. We don’t get started at all, or we get started but then stop again as soon as the first obstacle shows up.

So, why aren’t we taking action, why do we procrastinate and postpone, again and again?

It’s because of the clutter in our mind – all the thoughts and feelings that we got used to thinking and feeling, that we keep in our mind although they don’t serve us.

Everything we do or don’t do, every action or inaction in our life, is driven by a feeling – which always is created by a thought in our mind.

If we don’t get active, it’s because we don’t really ‘feel like doing it’.

As our feelings drive our actions, we only get active if we have the appropriate action-creating feelings.

And we can only feel the ‘right’ way if we have the ‘right’ thoughts – thoughts that are creating the feelings we need to feel to take action and to create the results we want to have in our life.    

So, our thinking is driving everything. It’s creating our feelings, which are driving our actions, which are creating our results.

Now it’s clear why we so often struggle to take action and make changes in our life:

If we try to take action without adapting or changing the thought and the feeling in a way that they support the desired action-taking, we are going to run into problems: We are going to have to work against our mind – against the thought and feeling it got so used to.

That’s why trying to use willpower to make changes in our life can be so frustrating. We try to change our action/behaviour without changing the thought and feeling that are driving our current action or inaction. 

EXAMPLE, PART 1

The thought is: ‘It’s really hard. I’ve tried so many times to lose weight and it didn’t work out. This time I have to make it work somehow.’

The feeling might be: Doubtful. Or sceptical. Maybe shameful.

The action then could be: Postponing and waiting for the ‘right’ time for the new diet. Or starting a new diet plan but giving in at the end of the next stressful day – getting to the fridge to find relief.

The result is: Another attempt to lose weight that didn’t work out.

We have to change our thinking and feeling so that we can create different actions and results.

The first step is to become aware of what’s happening in our mind. We have to understand our thinking before we can change our feelings and actions.

We have to see and understand what we are currently thinking before we can declutter and reorganise the thoughts in our mind.

We have to watch ourselves think.

In order to go into that observer mode, we have to separate ourselves from our mind.

If we manage to look ‘from the outside’ into our mind and to observe our current thoughts and feelings – like in the example above -, we begin to understand why we have not been successful in making changes.

We can then decide to change our thoughts.

EXAMPLE, PART 2

The new thought could be: It doesn’t matter what happened in the past. This time I take a different approach. I’ll make this work out for me. And I will be so proud of myself in the end!

The feeling might be: Determined. Or confident. Or committed.

The action then could be: Creating a detailed plan for the dieting process, including strategies how to overcome temptations and obstacles. Deliberately and regularly imagining the feelings of pride and accomplishment. Keeping to the diet plan.

The result is: The result is different! The different approach helps me to act as I want. I am proud of myself.

As soon as we consciously change our thought pattern we also change feeling pattern which enables us to change our actions/behaviours and therefore the results in our life.

EXERCISE

Think about the things you would like to do, the goals you wish to achieve.

Step 1 – Pick one goal. Describe the result you want to create:

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Step 2 – What would you have to do, which actions would you have to take to create the desired result? 

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Step 3 – Now think about what feeling you need to feel to take the necessary action and get that thing done

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Step 4 – What thoughts would you need to be thinking to feel the action-creating feeling? 

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Now practice thinking that thought. Day by day. Expect your feelings and action to change soon. Slowly but surely. 


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Margot Krekeler

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