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Why setting goals and pursuing them is so important

The main reason why we usually decide to set goals for ourselves is, of course, because we want to achieve or get something that we currently don’t have in our life. Or maybe we want to change what currently is to something else – usually something better.

However, goal setting not only gets us on track to move towards our goals.

The special benefits of setting and pursuing goals

• • The act of setting goals and then moving towards them has a deeper benefit:

It allows us to evolve and to develop our personal potential.

Moving towards something that’s beyond our current abilities and overcoming the obstacles on our way helps us to stretch ourselves and to become better in what we do and who we are.

• • Another positive effect of setting and pursuing goals is that it gives our mind focus and direction.

If we don’t direct our mind, it runs on default. It might focus on thoughts that don’t benefit us – because they produce feelings and actions that create unwanted results in our life.

Our deliberate intentions and goals keep our mind from running ‘wild’, they provide supervision and structure and help us live our life on purpose.

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The process of goal-setting – 6 tips that help you achieve what you want:

1. 1. Choose a goal – even if you don’t have one.

Even if you don’t have a specific goal at the moment, the act of setting a goal can be a really powerful and useful exercise.

It gives your mind and life focus and direction; it strengthens your motivation to realise your personal potential; it helps you get what you want. So, think about the different areas in your life and pick one you don’t feel happy about.

Now, choose a goal to help you make positive changes in the chosen area.

1. 2. Get specific but don’t think about the how yet.

Be very specific about your goal.

Talk about your goal in the first person and the present tense. Decide on time-frames, deadlines, and other details. However, don’t think about how you will achieve the goal yet.

For now, you focus on the what and when.

1. 3. Write the goal down.

Take your goal out of your imagination and make it real and tangible.

The best way to do this is to write it down. Writing down your goal on a piece of paper gets it out of your brain. You now can look at it, you can adjust it, you can carry it around, and you can (and should) read it again and again.

Your goal now acts like a GPS destination, indicating where you want to go.

1. 4. Stretch yourself with the goal, and ‘welcome’ any negative feelings.

Offer yourself a real self-development opportunity – make sure that you push yourself beyond your current comfort zone with your goal.

If it seems easy to achieve, it’s not a real goal! You will know you have stretched yourself sufficiently if negative emotions such as fear, doubt, or shame arise. Don’t push these feelings away; accept them as normal parts of the process.

Honouring and managing these feelings will not only ensure that you achieve your goal but also allow you to become a more robust and better version of yourself.

1. 5. Uncover any negative thoughts, and question/replace them.

Search for the negative thoughts that cause uncomfortable feelings.

It might be something like ‘This is too hard to do’, or ‘I don’t know how to do this’, or ‘I don’t know if this is what I want’. Uncover all the thoughts behind your feelings of disbelief or doubtfulness or fear – and write them down.

Then, remind yourself that these thoughts are just choices. Your human brain is bringing them up to protect you – it wants you to avoid any risks by keeping everything as it is – but that doesn’t mean you have to believe these limiting thoughts. 

Tell your mind, ‘No worries – I’ll figure this out.’

1. 6. Have a brainstorming session with your future self to design an action plan.

When you are ready to start working on your action plan, you can ask your future self for help.

Imagine yourself at the place in the future when your goal has been completed. From that place, look back to where you are now, and you tell your present self the how – all the steps you took to accomplish the goal and what you did to overcome the obstacles on your way. Write these steps down; they build your action plan.

Now, you are ready to take the first action and work on achieving your goal!

With these tips, you can set new goals for your life that will help you start moving and creating the life you want to live.

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The process of goal-setting – A personal example

Last year, I decided to improve my fitness levels. This is what my goal-setting looked like:

Tip 1 to 3 – Choose a goal, be specific, write it down

I want to increase my fitness levels by becoming a better runner. On my birthday – in 6 weeks’ time – I run from home to Bondi (across the suburbs) and then back home (along the coastal walk). That’s about 15 km and will take me about 2 hours.

Tip 4 – Stretch yourself and appreciate negative feelings

It’s a bold goal! Currently, I run for about 25 minutes two or three times a week. The idea to run around 2 hours without a break feels very intimidating and uncomfortable.

Tip 5 – Uncover negative thoughts and question/replace them

My original thoughts:

That’s a stupid idea. I am fit enough – why do I put this pressure on myself? I will hate myself if I don’t make it. And all the preparations and the training! I need to make a plan! And then stick to it! Oh no, this is really stupid – why do I always make my life difficult?!

My counter-thoughts:

O.k., o.k., calm down. It always feels great to achieve ambitious goals and this one will be no different. I’ll feel fantastic on my birthday, being so fit and strong. Yes, of course, it needs some time and effort to get prepared. Yes, I need to make a plan. But I am good at planning. I’ll make it work out!

Tip 6 – A brainstorming session with your future self

This is what I imagine my future self would say to me after the Bondi run:

I remember how uncomfortable I felt, 6 weeks ago, when I made this decision and wrote the goal down. It felt so intimidating to see my goal on paper.

But then I made a plan. I decided to change my running schedule to 4 times a week and to extend the running time to 40 minutes.

I also decided to do longer runs every Sunday: 45 minutes on the first Sunday (at the end of the first week), 50 minutes on the following Sunday, 60 minutes on the third and fourth Sunday, 90 minutes on the fifth Sunday (one week before the Bondi run). 

I created a simple action plan, listing the running dates and running times.

I put the plan on the wall, opposite my desk, so that I had to look at it every day. And on all running days, I wrote ‘done!’ at the end of the line of that day as soon as I came home from running. That felt good!

I also remember, however, that it was not always fun, especially the longer runs on Sundays. But I never thought about giving up; that was just no option. I reminded myself that I did this for myself and that it was worth the effort.  

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Success! Goal achieved!

Eight weeks after I had set my goal, I did the Bondi run – it took me 1 hour and 50 minutes and was quite exhausting. But – I did it! The goal-setting process was very helpful, especially the ‘talks’ with my future self.

What do you really want in your life?

When someone asks us what we really want in our life, most of us say that we want to feel good or better, or that we just want to be happy.

So it seems to be very important to find out what it is that makes us feel good, better or happy.

Where do our feelings come from?

Often, we believe that our feelings are determined by the external circumstances in our life.

We say that we feel a certain way because of something that’s happening outside of us: other people and what they do or don’t do, the past/our past experiences, events that are happening or not happening.

We are persuaded that the reason for what we are feeling is out there, outside of our control. But that’s not true.

Every feeling is created in our mind, by the thoughts we are thinking.

Feeling better or happy is completely within our control!

That’s very good news, of course, but it’s not so easy to accept/believe for many of us.

We got so used to the idea that we have to depend on something external, outside of us, in order to feel a certain way.

We believe that we can only feel happy if, for example, the scale proves to us that we have the ‘ideal’ weight.

We are persuaded that we will be happy as soon as we have found the ‘perfect’ partner.

We think that we can only feel good if we get promoted or a ‘better’ job.

But it’s not the external things that we believe we need to have that will make us feel better.

It’s always the thoughts that we have about our external circumstances that make us feel a certain way.

EXAMPLE 1

A very simple example is the weather.

How we feel about the weather has nothing to do with the weather but is completely determined by what we think about the weather.

If it’s heavily raining on a Sunday morning, we might think: ‘Oh no, we can’t go to the beach. This will be a boring day!’ – It’s heavily raining and we feel miserable and bored.

However, if we think: ‘Oh yeah, that’s great, now I can stay in bed and keep reading all day long!’ –  It’s heavily raining and we will feel great and enjoy the day.

EXAMPLE 2

Let’s imagine we believe that as soon as we achieve our ‘ideal’ body weight we are going to be happy.

Again, it’s not the circumstance – the ‘ideal’ numbers on the scale – that has the power to make us happy. The numbers are completely neutral, they actually mean nothing unless we assign a meaning to them.

It’s the thoughts that we have about these numbers that have the power to create the feelings we desire to have.

We might believe:

‘As soon as I’ll see these ideal numbers on the scale I will know that I am a great person. I will be fit and thin and people will admire me. I will feel attractive and confident and lovable and admirable. I will feel fantastic about myself. I will be happy.’

If we look at this scenario from an objective point of view, we know that the conclusions above are not realistic:

• • We all know a lot of people who have achieved their weight loss goals, who have these ‘ideal’ numbers on the scale, who are fit and thin and attractive – but nevertheless feel completely miserable and unhappy. – The numbers on the scale don’t have the power to create good feelings for them.
  • We also know other people with a body weight much higher than the healthy ‘ideal’ numbers who feel strong and confident and fantastic about themselves. – The numbers on the scale don’t have the power to create bad feelings for them.

Thus, the secret to feeling happy is not waiting for something external to change. It is to change the thoughts we are thinking right now.

We can still choose to aim for our goals, of course. We can, for example, keep our plans to lose weight, if we want to.

But it’s time now for us to give up the idea that achieving that goal is necessary for us being able to feel the way we want to feel.

Knowing that our circumstances – our body weight, for example – have nothing to do with how we are feeling about ourselves, we can start to search for believable thoughts that will help us to feel our desired feelings now.  

EXERCISE

Start with one feeling you wish to feel more often and decide to focus on that favourite feeling for several days.

Referring back to the second example above, it could be ‘feeling confident’ (Feeling confident now, no matter what the numbers on the scale are!)

• • Going through your day, ask yourself again and again, ‘What do I have to think to feel ___ in this moment?’ – For example, ‘What do I have to think to feel confident right now?’. 
  • It might be that you struggle in the beginning to find believable thoughts. Just start ‘smaller’: ‘What do I have to think to feel a little bit more confident in this moment?’ 
  • You can also look back to your past to find helpful thoughts. ‘What was a situation in the past when I felt confident? What thoughts did I have about myself at that time? Could I think similar confidence-creating thoughts today?’
  • Look around for role models, people who seem to have a lot of the feeling you desire to have. ‘What might that person be thinking that makes her feel confident right now?’

Become an expert in creating and feeling your favourite feeling. Right now.

 

How to take action and make changes in our life

Many of us share this experience:

We have an idea or a goal we want to realise, we plan to change a certain behaviour, we want to create a new habit – and we really want to get active and do this thing.

But then we don’t do it. 

We don’t get started at all, or we get started but then stop again as soon as the first obstacle shows up.

So, why aren’t we taking action, why do we procrastinate and postpone, why do we quit, again and again?

It’s because of the clutter in our mind.

It’s because of all the thoughts and feelings that we got used to thinking and feeling, that we keep thinking and feeling although they don’t serve us.

Everything we do or don’t do, every action or inaction in our life, is driven by a feeling. A feeling which is caused by a thought.

If we don’t get active, it’s because we don’t ‘feel like doing it’.

As our feelings drive our actions, we only get active if we have the appropriate action-fueling feelings.

And we can only feel the ‘right’ way if we have the ‘right’ thoughts – thoughts that are creating the feelings we need to feel to take action and to create the results we want to have in our life.    

Now it’s clear why we so often struggle to take action and make changes in our life:

If we try to take action without changing our thoughts and feelings, we run into problems:

We are trying to work against our mind – against the thoughts and feelings we got so used to – and that is really hard.

Let’s have a look at an example, let’s pretend I want to lose weight.

EXAMPLE – Weight Loss Goal – PART 1

My current thought is: ‘It’s really hard. I’ve tried so many times to lose weight and it didn’t work out. This time I have to make it work somehow.’

Based on that thought my feeling might be: Doubtful. Or skeptical. Maybe shameful. Or even desperate.

This type of feelings will most probably create action(s) like these: Postponing and waiting for the ‘right’ time to start the new diet. Or starting a new diet plan but giving in at the end of the next stressful day – getting to the fridge to find relief.

The result I’m creating: Another attempt to lose weight that doesn’t work out.

We can easily see here why it’s so hard to get new results if we stick to our old thoughts and feelings. 

Before we can change our thoughts we need to understand what’s going on in our mind: We need to learn how to watch ourselves think.

As soon as we manage to look ‘from the outside’ into our mind and to observe our current thoughts and feelings – like we did in the example above -, we begin to understand why we struggle to make changes.

We can then decide to take control of our mind and to change our thoughts.

EXAMPLE – Weight Loss Goal – PART 2

My new – deliberately chosen and practiced – thought is: ‘It doesn’t matter what happened in the past. This time I take a different approach. I’ll make this work out for me. And I will be so proud of myself in the end!’

My feeling now is something like: Determined. Or confident. Or committed.

My action(s) will look like these: Creating a detailed plan for the dieting process, including strategies how to overcome temptations and obstacles. Deliberately and regularly imagining the feelings of pride and accomplishment. Keeping to the diet plan.

My new result is different, of course! The different approach (different thoughts and feelings) helps me to do what I want to do. I am making myself proud of myself.

As soon as we consciously change our thoughts we also change our feelings which enables us to change our actions/behaviours and therefore the results in our life.

EXERCISE

Think about the things you would like to do, the goals you wish to achieve.

Step 1 – Pick one goal. Describe the result you want to create:

……………………………………………………………………………..

(Example: ‘My paperwork is clutterfree and well organised.’)

Step 2 – What would you have to do, which actions would you have to take to create the desired result? Write it down:

……………………………………………………………………………..

(Example: ‘I go through the 3 boxes of papers (stored in the garage), the 10 binders in my filing cabinet, and the paper pile on my desk. I take up/out each piece of paper and decide: to shred or to keep/file? I reorganise the binders and file what I decided to keep. I shred what I no longer need.’)

Step 3 – Now think about what feeling you need to feel to take the necessary action and get that thing done. Do you need to feel confident? Determined? Committed? Or something else? Write it down:

……………………………………………………………………………..

(Example: ‘I feel determined.’)

Step 4 – What thought would you need to be thinking to create the feeling you listed above?

……………………………………………………………………………..

(‘Yes, I’ve become a bit lazy with my paperwork and now it’s quite messy. I don’t like that and I’m the right person to change it. I’m going to get it sorted out next Saturday.’)

Step 5 – Now practice thinking that thought. Day by day.

(Example: ‘I don’t like that and I’m the right person to change it. – I don’t like that and I’m the right person to change it. – I don’t like that and I’m the right person to change it. …’)

Expect your feelings and actions to change soon. Slowly but surely. 

Get excited about the new results you will experience soon. Enjoy the change.

 

Making changes and achieving goals requires commitment and determination.

When we make the decision to change something, when we set a goal, we usually feel excited and determined to do whatever we have to do to make the change happen, to achieve the goal.

However, doing the work isn’t so much fun in many cases.

Decluttering our home, for example, can be hard work.

We have to be willing to invest time, effort and energy, we might feel uncomfortable and anxious about how to get the job done.

Often, our excitement about the desired change shrinks and our motivation to do the first step decreases rapidly.

So how can we keep ourselves going when we feel like giving up and quitting the work even before it has started?

We can strengthen our determination and commitment by taking responsibility for our future self and learning from our past self.

How our future self and our past self can support our present self

The idea of a future, past and present self (Source: Brooke Castillo) is a construct, it’s all made up.

However, the imagination of our three selves can help us get started and keep going whenever life gets hard and we feel like hiding or running away.

Our present self is creating our future.

Our future self will be the result of our current thoughts, feelings and actions. It completely depends on the decisions our present self makes today.

Thinking about our future self and loving it as much as we love our present self can change how we are showing up and following through on our plans today, in the present.

We can gain energy, inspiration and motivation from asking questions like these:

• • How will our future self feel about ourselves if we now remain committed and do the work (e.g. get the clutter out)?
  • How grateful will it be to our present self for pushing away any self-doubt and thoughts of giving up?
  • How proud will our future self be about the achievements of our present self?

Our past self has created our present.

Our current self – the person we are today – is the result of the thoughts, feelings and actions that our past self created.

Our past ambitions and our goals and our willingness to realise them, no matter how hard the work was, have brought us to the point where we are now.

We can deliberately appreciate what our past self has done for our present self.

We can decide to learn from our past self and copy the methods and tools it used successfully to move forward.

We can gain advice and insights by asking questions like these:

• • How did our past self get started with difficult projects (e.g., projects similar to our decluttering job)?
  • How did our past self overcome self-doubt and procrastination in similar situations?
  • What useful tips and tricks has our past self to offer to make our present self’s life and work easier?

Conversations with our past self and with our future self can be very helpful. And they can be real fun!

LITTLE FUN EXERCISE

Give it a try!

Start playing around with your three selves:

Imagine your three selves are sitting at a table.

• • First you ask your present self to choose and describe the problem it wants to solve.

This could be, for example: A project you postponed again and again. A bad habit you want to get rid of. A challenging goal you want to achieve. An upcoming conversation you are afraid of. …

• • Now ask your future and your past selves for support.

Ask them the questions listed above. And anything else that comes up to your mind. Write down their answers and recommendations.

• • Then tell your present self to get started with what has to be done.

• • Monitor its progress. Evaluate and make changes to your activities/actions if necessary.

Don’t forget to celebrate your success.

And invite your three selves to the party. 😃😃😃

“Saying goodbye is difficult, and most of us don’t do it enough.” (Brooke Castillo)

However, saying goodbye is part of life, and it is necessary:

If we wish to evolve and grow, if we want to make changes in our lives to move forward and make things better, we have to create space for the new:

We have to let go of what no longer serves us, what no longer fits into the life we want to have.

We need to say goodbye to the past

if we want to open the door to the present and welcome the future.

We need to say goodbye to relationships that are complete – relationships with things in our life, but also relationships with people, relationships with beliefs and thought patterns, and habits.

If we are holding on to something that’s no longer truly valuable to us, just because we had a relationship with it in the past, it will wear us down, slow us down, and it will suck up our energy.

Dragging stuff along that no longer serves us is a waste of energy – and we have a limited amount of energy.

Why do we find it difficult to say goodbye?

There are many reasons why saying goodbye is so hard.

A very big one is that saying goodbye means making decisions and initiating change. And that’s something our human brain doesn’t want us to do.

Our brain wants us to keep things as they are because it wants to keep us safe.

It wants us to avoid the unknown and the potential risk involved in letting new stuff into our lives. That’s why it’s easier to hold on to everything we have and avoid the decision to let go of what’s no longer needed and useful.

Also, we tend to associate loss with saying goodbye. We try to avoid saying goodbye because we don’t want to experience ‘negative’ feelings like sadness or grief.

Another reason for not making decisions and not saying goodbye is that we are afraid that we will feel regret or guilt about letting go of something that was valuable at some point in time.

If we have invested our time, energy, attention, or money into something, we often hesitate to let it go ‘for free’.

That’s why we keep so much stuff in our lives that’s still usable but no longer useful to us.

We think we should only sort out what is damaged, broken, and no longer working.

However, it’s not always necessary for something to be faulty to say goodbye to it.

If we don’t need, use, or love it anymore, it occupies undeserved space in our homes, minds, and hearts, and it sucks up our energy.

Space and energy that we need for new things, people, thoughts, etc. to come in.

How do we make goodbye decisions?

It’s good to know that our brain hates any changes and let-go decisions and will try its best to bring up thoughts and feelings that are supposed to keep us where we are and what we have in our life right now.

If we prepare ourselves for ‘negative’ thoughts and feelings, we can better confront them and deliberately decide what WE want to think and decide:

First, we take an inventory of what we currently have in our life:

• • our physical belongings (including paperwork and digital information),
  • our relationships with other people,
  • our thoughts and beliefs,
  • our habits, behaviours, and actions
  • our work, hobbies, interests, activities,
  • etc. 

Then, we ask ourselves questions – and we answer them honestly.

• • ‘Does it still serve me? – Do I need, use, love it? Really?’
  • ‘Does it move me toward what I want, or does it move me away from what I want to have in my life?’

If we can’t respond with a clear ‘yes’ to this type of question, it’s time to decide to let go and say goodbye.

It’s important that we make these decisions clearly and definitely, we have to commit to the goodbye and not look back.

Then, we can move forward, into our (uncluttered) future, toward what we want to have in our lives.

We now have the space and energy for new experiences, relationships, interests, activities, things, etc.

If we aren’t getting the result we want it’s because of a thought.

Our thoughts create our feelings, our feelings drive our actions, our actions accumulate into results. – The trouble starts when we forget about this powerful cycle of results-creation.

If something is not as we want it to be,

if we have a result in our life that we don’t like,

for example: ‘My desk is covered with piles of papers’),

• • we often believe that something is wrong with us.

For example: ‘I am hopeless at organising my stuff.

• • Or we blame certain circumstances in our life.

For example: ‘I don’t have enough space to file my paperwork properly.’

The consequence is feeling incapable, out of control, and stuck, and making any changes to the unsatisfying situation seems impossible.

It just seems like that that’s the way things are and that there is nothing we can do about it.

However, we can do something about it! Always!

We can change the results we currently have by changing the thoughts we currently think.

How can we declutter limiting thoughts?

The first step is becoming aware of the limiting thought. We need to recognise that what we believe to be a fact is actually a thought.

The fact in the example situation above is: ‘My desk is covered with piles of papers.’

The statement, ‘I am hopeless at organising my stuff’, however, is not a fact, it’s just a thought about the fact.

This differentiation is very important!

Thoughts are optional.

We can change them, and we can believe whatever we want about the circumstances/facts in our lives.

As soon as we are aware of what we are thinking, we can start to question our thoughts.

Questioning our thoughts

One of the many ways to test our thoughts – especially our limiting beliefs – is to ask ourselves powerful questions like the following (Source: April Price) – and to answer them:

• • ‘If I didn’t believe this, then what would I do?’

We play around with the idea that what we believe to be true might actually not be true.

Example: ‘I am hopeless at organising my stuff. 

-> If I didn’t believe that, then what would I do?’

Possible new answer: ‘Organising might not be one of my top 5 strengths but that’s okay. And I am actually getting better at it.’

• • ‘What if I’m wrong about that?’

The more willing we are to consider that we might be wrong about our beliefs, the less self-limiting power they have over us.

Example: ‘I don’t have enough space to organise my paperwork properly. 

-> What if I’m wrong about that?’

Possible new answer: ‘I absolutely have enough space to organise my paperwork properly. I just have to rearrange a few things before I get started.’

• • ‘What if this is just a story my mind made up?’

Stories are not reality; they are made up. They are interpretations of the things and events in our lives. We can decide to interpret things differently.

Example: ‘I am hopeless at organising my stuff. 

-> What if this is just a story my mind made up? What’s a different story I could tell myself?’

Possible new answer: ‘I didn’t learn how to organise my stuff when I was young. So, of course, I don’t find it so easy today. But it’s just a skill, and I am getting better at it.’

Give it a try!

Pick a limiting thought, something you got so used to that you never questioned it.

Question it now (see above). Then, write down the answers. Pick one of them to practice and establish a new thought.  

Whenever the old thought comes up – and it will for a while because your brain is so used to thinking it – you decide deliberately to let it go. And you ‘turn around’ and focus your attention on the new thought. 

The more often you do this, the faster the old thought will lose its power.

Based on the new thought, your feelings and actions will change – and your results.

It works! Always!

How are you going to create a clutterfree life?

• • Are you learning how to declutter your home? – Or are you becoming a declutterer?
  • Are you learning how to declutter your thoughts and feelings? – Or are you becoming the master of your mind?
  • Are you going to make better buying decisions? – Or are you becoming a conscious shopper?
  • Are you starting to be more organised? – Or are you becoming the organiser of your home/life?

Who are you becoming? What’s your future identity?

When we decide to make changes in our life, when we start to move towards achieving our goals, we are not only starting to do something differently.

Before we can start to act differently, we need to learn to think and feel differently.

We are becoming someone different, we are creating a new identity.

A new identity that is different to our past identity. Thus, we can’t look to the past for evidence on what to do differently and how to do it differently.

Our ‘future self’ can help us create our future identity

We can use our imagination to ‘slip’ into our future identity, so that by taking this special new point of view we can develop a better understanding of the person we are going to be in the future.  

When we start to identify ourselves as who we are becoming, it’s getting easier to find empowering thoughts and words to lean on when the work of change gets hard.

Thus, let’s not focus so much on what we are going to do differently, let’s instead focus on defining our new identity – how we are going to be different.

We can ask ourselves:

• • ‘Who am I becoming?’
  • ‘How does that person – the new me – make decisions?’
  • ‘What does that person think?’
  • ‘How does that person feel?’
  • ‘How does that person act?’

LITTLE EXERCISE

Give your mind a powerful idea of who you are becoming.

Focusing on your future identity will help you think, feel and act like the person you want to become.

Step 1: Define your new identity

These are just a few examples of new-identity ideas:

• • ‘I am becoming a life-declutterer.’
  • ‘I am becoming a mindful person,’
  • ‘I am learning to be a conscious shopper.’
  • ‘I am determined to become the organiser of my mind, my home and my life.’

Step 2: Describe how you will think, feel and act differently.

Example:

Thoughts: ‘As a life-declutterer I make sure that there is no clutter in my mind and no clutter in my home. I only ‘own’ thoughts and belongings that serve me. My mind and my home are clutterfree and organised.

Feelings: I feel determined and confident.

Actions: I practice mind-decluttering every day, and I create useful habits and routines that help me to keep my mind and home clear and clean.’

Now it’s your turn! Who do you want to be?

Fill in the blanks:

 ‘I am becoming a _______________.’

‘These are the thoughts I am going to think about myself and my life:

_______________________________________________

_______________________________________________’

‘This is how I will feel and act in future: 

_______________________________________________

_______________________________________________’