Why it is so important to ask our mind the right questions

Our mind is the most powerful tool we have – if we learn how to use it in a powerful way.

If we don’t pay close attention to our mind, it will do what it is used to do and good at – and that’s constantly looking out for danger and risks that could jeopardise our well-being.

If we let it do what it wants to do, our brain will bring up a lot of negative thoughts and limiting self-talk throughout the day – just to keep us where we are and away from doing new or difficult things.

We can decide to no longer let our mind run on default.

We can take our power back by telling our mind that it’s no longer in charge, that it can relax and calm down – because now we will take the lead and we decide what we want to think, feel, and do.

Thinking better makes us feel better. And when we feel better, we are better able to take the necessary actions that allow us to create the results we want to have in our life.

When we ask ourselves powerful questions, our mind opens up and answers with powerful thoughts.

One of the various ways to take control and to use our mind as a powerful positive life-management tool is to ask the right questions.

An example of a powerful question: ‘How do I want to feel just now?’

The purpose of this question is to create greater awareness of what we are thinking and feeling during the day.

It also helps us to define the feelings we want to feel, and to find the thoughts we need to think to create those feelings.


    • Sit down in the morning, think about the question (‘How do I want to feel today?’) for a few minutes, then write down your answer.
    • Try to remind yourself to think about the question again and again throughout the day. Ask yourself at different times of the day and in different situations how you want to feel right in that moment. 
    • If you don’t feel and act as you want, you can ask yourself: ‘What do I need to think right now to make me feel and act the way I want?’


Let’s say your answer to your question in the morning was, ‘I want to feel calm today’.

But then, on your way back from work, you notice that your are feeling stressed and frustrated.

Now you ask, ‘What do I need to think to feel calm instead of stressed and frustrated right now?’

The answer might be: ‘These are the thoughts I want to focus on now: Work is over for today. That’s good. I managed to get a lot done today. That’s also good. I’m looking forward to taking care of myself and relaxing at home. That’s very good. :)’


Tomorrow morning, take a few minutes to find your answer to the example question, ‘How do I want to feel today?’

And then, throughout the day, practice becoming aware of your feelings and deliberately changing your thoughts whenever necessary.

For more information about the power of positive questions (and the negative effects of negative questions) CLICK HERE.

Asking powerful questions to open up our mind


The negative effects of negative questions

    • ‘Why do I always mess it up?’,
    • ‘How can he be so stupid?’,
    • ‘What’s wrong with me?’,
    • ‘When is it going to get better?’,
    • ‘Why is life so hard?’,
    • ‘Does everything have to be so difficult?’,
    • ‘Why is she always so mean to me?’,
    • ‘Why doesn’t he understand me?’,
    • ‘Why am I always angry?’

When we ask ourselves this type of negative questions – and we all do it, every day, or from time to time, often without being aware of it – we hurt ourselves.

Questions like the examples above are not only useless, they are damaging.

As soon as we ask a negative question, our mind gets to work:

It will follow the direction we have given to it and come back with negative and destructive answers. It starts to build up a negative thought pattern which will first create negative feelings and ultimately negative results in our life. 

How can we stop this cycle of negativity?

The power of positive questions

We can take control of our mind, we can always choose thoughts that help us feel and act better.

One of the many ways to guide our mind is to ask the right questions.

When we ask ourselves powerful questions, our mind will open up and answer with powerful thoughts. It will shift toward constructing better thought patterns which will make us feel better.

And when we feel better, we are better able to create the results we want to have in our life.

Examples of powerful questions

    • ‘What am I grateful for?’,
    • ‘Why is today a good day?’,
    • ‘What can I do to make today a good day?’,
    • ‘What is a/the solution to this problem?’,
    • ‘What can I learn from this situation?’,
    • ‘How do I want to feel right now?’,
    • ‘What’s the good news about this?’,
    • ‘What am I making this mean?’,
    • ‘What is the one thing I could do now to make it better?’,
    • ‘What would be a good reaction?’.

How to find powerful questions

It’s usually not difficult to come up with powerful questions when everything is running smoothly and we feel good and strong already.

When we have a bad day, or find ourselves in a tough situation, it’s often not easy to come up with a question that can help us find powerful answers and create positive thoughts and feelings.  

This is why we have to get prepared.

We have to search for and practice powerful questions ahead of time.

We want to make sure that we always have a powerful question at hand when we need it urgently.

Give it a try

Pick one of the powerful questions from the list above and play around with it.

Use it over the course of one day or several days to help you develop more powerful thought patterns.

If you chose, for example, the question

    • ‘What is the one thing I could do now to make it better?’

your mind will most probably come up with answers that make you feel more active, powerful, and in control – which will make it easier for you to take action and create results intentionally.


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